Communication
Method Is Not Just for Kids from Parents.
All parents want to always protect their children so as not to make mistakes that could harm the child. I was so worried, sometimes even their parents failed to communicate with the child because the child disliked the way communication.
As a result, parents are communicating in a way that would damage its relationship with the child. According to Drs. Jeffrey Bernstein, a psychologist from Philadelphia and author of '10 Days to a Less Defiant Child ', there are three styles of communication that parents do not like children as reported by Psychology Today:
1. Cornered with guilt
Usually done by asking or making the child feel in a position of a parent or other person in certain situations. Parents often try to make children feel guilty for their actions or thoughts. Parents who control their children using guilt are actually a risk of alienating the children from their own.
For example: Budi (15 years) being caught smoking by a neighbor who later reported to her mother's neighbor. Budi her mother for half an hour lecture with a statement like: "Imagine how embarrassed she heard whispering neighbors say your child smoking?" or "Are not you realize, you've ruined my mother the same trust you?”
This method will not work and actually makes Budi increasingly make the distance with his mother. Budi actually only needed support, understanding, and discipline. Makes communication by asking the reason why smoking and actually make the child is usually more open.
2. Using sarcasm or satire.
The insinuation is saying things the opposite of what I really want to say and implied through tone of voice. An example is saying something like: "you're very clever" when the child made a mistake or something bad.
Sarcasm is a barrier for parents who want to communicate effectively with their children. Speaking with a positive tone and not abusive will make children more respect.
3. Lecture.
That is when parents come and give talks how her son should be doing something, not provide feedback or suggestions. Too directing and driving it will not be heard by children, or may even make the child do the opposite of what the parents told me to.
Parents of children dictate how it should solve the problem and directing that the children do not have control over their own lives, and then they will lose the trust of his children.
All parents want to always protect their children so as not to make mistakes that could harm the child. I was so worried, sometimes even their parents failed to communicate with the child because the child disliked the way communication.
As a result, parents are communicating in a way that would damage its relationship with the child. According to Drs. Jeffrey Bernstein, a psychologist from Philadelphia and author of '10 Days to a Less Defiant Child ', there are three styles of communication that parents do not like children as reported by Psychology Today:
1. Cornered with guilt
Usually done by asking or making the child feel in a position of a parent or other person in certain situations. Parents often try to make children feel guilty for their actions or thoughts. Parents who control their children using guilt are actually a risk of alienating the children from their own.
For example: Budi (15 years) being caught smoking by a neighbor who later reported to her mother's neighbor. Budi her mother for half an hour lecture with a statement like: "Imagine how embarrassed she heard whispering neighbors say your child smoking?" or "Are not you realize, you've ruined my mother the same trust you?”
This method will not work and actually makes Budi increasingly make the distance with his mother. Budi actually only needed support, understanding, and discipline. Makes communication by asking the reason why smoking and actually make the child is usually more open.
2. Using sarcasm or satire.
The insinuation is saying things the opposite of what I really want to say and implied through tone of voice. An example is saying something like: "you're very clever" when the child made a mistake or something bad.
Sarcasm is a barrier for parents who want to communicate effectively with their children. Speaking with a positive tone and not abusive will make children more respect.
3. Lecture.
That is when parents come and give talks how her son should be doing something, not provide feedback or suggestions. Too directing and driving it will not be heard by children, or may even make the child do the opposite of what the parents told me to.
Parents of children dictate how it should solve the problem and directing that the children do not have control over their own lives, and then they will lose the trust of his children.
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